God Lovin' & Single Livin' (with a piece for the married ones)

So here Pastor Lorraine is preaching about the Word being a source of strength from the Lord (part 2 December 11,2011 – 1st Samuel 30) when she deviates into preaching to we single ones for a decent amount of time. Note here single means unmarried - it doesn’t matter if you are dating or in a serious relationship or even engaged. Till the papers are signed and it has been blessed by God – you’re single.

She said we as single people should love on the Lord as He loves on us – unconditionally, freely giving, even when we do things to hurt him. The Lord loves us in all situations, at all times and is always there.  When you are lonely know that the Lord is with you. Those nights you just want to hold on to something hold on to the Word.

Our first desire should be for God. He should be all we need and love apart from family and friends.

When we desire the Lord and inquire of Him, He will lead us to Mr or Mrs Right in His time, when He knows you are ready.

The problem many face is they are usually in a rush and find someone who is not of the same spiritual level. Them not being of the same spiritual level means they are most often not sharing the ideals and values you uphold and live by.     

When you are unequally yoked what tends to happen? Let’s say you are at some peak during the climbing of a mountain and your friend/partner/prospective is on a level lower than yours. Is it easier to lift them up or for them to pull you down? Be real, it’ll be easier for them to bring you down as you try to meet their every desire and fulfill all their needs due to “love”.

This is why we need to seek God first. He will make it even clearer to spot the one He has prepared for you. Don’t get deceived into rushing into things you are not prepared for only to be unequally yoked. That’s extra stress, trouble and the chance to fall to temptation you’re setting yourself up for.

Till then, DO YOU! Have fun; don’t sulk because you are alone. Did you not come into this world alone? Lol. Take yourself out; pamper yourself because you are royalty. A child of the Sovereign God. You’re a King or Queen. Know what you’re worth. Don’t settle for anything substandard.  Don’t feel pressured by friends, family or society. God will prepare and bring that King or Queen into your life - one that respects you and treats you right.

It’s okay to be single she preached. Yes it’s hard when everyone around you seems to be having the time of their life with that special one/significant other/ boo thang… you know what I mean.  Trust me I know.lol. But God  loves us so much and if we love on Him, He will keep us on the right path and bring a worthy mate to us. Rejoice in this time of your life for it is when all your love should be for God and you get to search for yourself in Him! Discover his purpose and plan for your life by inquiring of Him always.

If you meet someone who you think you are interested in, PRAY! I cannot stress this enough. Your Father knows best. Ask Him for a sign to know. Even if we are confused and still pursue, He will get you out of there in time to save you from all trouble. You may get your heart broken a time or two but it’s a learning process to keep you from certain types of people. God never promised a life free of problems or pain.

If you are in a relationship yet not married do keep your commitment in mind though. Don’t be a ‘player player’ because there have been no papers signed. Remember still, that your desire should be to get to know God better.

When your mind tends to wander and more and you lose your focus on God, turn to Him and don’t fall to the temptation and lust you think is that feeling of butterflies and tingling sensations of this thing called love. ps. “Cold showers are not enough!” Pastor Lorraine

Philippians 4:6-9 says:

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God;

And the peace of God which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.

The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do and the peace of God will be with you!

Why worry and be desperate for love when you can pray and make your requests made know unto God. He is our Provider and will never put more on us than we can bear – yes, we have the choice to resist many temptations society and people throw in our faces all the time. We may slip at times but He is a just God to forgive us when we confess our wrongdoings. So when you are troubled and your mind is where it should not be at meditate on these things and love God, because He first loved us.

God is trying to get you to your destiny. You need to love and know Him first; don’t let anyone or anything pressure you before God’s time. Pastor Lorraine kept saying this word was for someone, that somebody needed to hear it. I definitely needed it! And many out there too which is why I put this together. Once she asked the single people to stand I stood with alacrity – not to be noticed by another single person but because I realize I need to work on my relationship with God. I need to let Him know I’m ready to love on Him. Ain’t no shame in my game!

For the married ones out there, your focus is to love and attend to your spouse then God. Don’t leave God hanging after He carefully prepared this gift or better half for you. Don’t be like the women and men who go to church all day, all night, mid week service, online, Sunday early and late morning services and other masses, Women’s fellowship, Men’s Fellowship, Outreach Ministry, Choir, Praise and Worship Team, et cetera et cetera if possible when they are seeking  their King or Queen and then suddenly vanish after saying I do!

Now as a couple in the institution God has created and blessed Himself, you should as being equally yoked, learn to love one another and love God together as one – “  Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh (Genesis 2:24)” Therefore what God has put together let no man put asunder.” (both verses in Mark 10:7-9)

Find strength in the Lord and love by inquiring of Him – first getting to know Him and love who you are in Him and what He has planned for your life. Who better to learn how to love from than our Father who loved us so much that He sent His Only Begotten Son that whomsoever believeth in Him shall not perish, but have everlasting life. (John 3:16)

For more read and check out Matthew 19, Mark 10, 1^st Corinthians 7, Ephesians 5:22-33 (the example of Christ’s marriage to the Church)

I hope this blesses you all!